Today, my friend taught me an important lesson.

He's a nice friend, but recently he turned more somber and serious, and lost (a little) of the fun, and happy side of him.

We thought it was because of a life experience that may have affected his life, but we feared that it may be insensitive to ask.

But still, we hinted and joked about him being so serious all the time.

And then it hit me. He was serious, because he realized he was walking into his midlife.

He must have realized his priorities and in turn, turned him into a more matured-thinking, serious man (yes, man).

Well, yeah, I know we're getting of age these days. In fact, wasn't my last post just talking of something similar?

But what I don't agree is that we should change the way we act, at least not totally.

There is a fine line in between knowing when to be serious, and when to have fun.

As long as you know that line, isn't it fine to have both characteristics in a single person? We can't fool around all our lives, we can easily fool it away. But I refuse to be a sad somber working life executive like what I see on the streets every single day.

It won't be, and isn't fun.

And I guess you cant judge a person by its cover isn't it? If a person is laughing his life away, it doesn't mean that his nights are spent in the same way. He may have several sleepless nights, just thinking of how to piece his life together, make it perfect.

But I do not deny that people still judge. There is nothing we can do about that because we cannot control what others might think. And hence, in comes the line! In front of people that matters, do not go over the line and into your party animal. Such people likes prim and proper, not wild and free.

It's actually a social thing I guess. Who says the frequent Zouk go-er can't be competent of completing what a guy who clocks 100hours a week? Don't judge, think first.

Hardwork matters, skills matters, attitude matters.

Well I guess everything matters in the working society.

It's a cruel world out there, people.

Oh let's go back to what I was actually talking about. The main reason for this post is that I felt a tinge of sadness, I felt like I was losing a friend, and the worse thing is that society was engulfing him.

It's like watching your friend get eaten by a lion. It's horrible.

Well, I still stand by my stand, I don't anyone should be changing anything, just be yourself! Don't force yourself to be someone, or something even yourself wouldnt like. Wouldn't that be torturous?

I'm not sure if he's growing up, and I'm not, but it sure feels like we're years apart now.

Okay disclaimer: I don't know if what I said is what he thinks, but what I said is what I think! Don't get offended, if your view and mine are different.